Heartbroken, in tears, at a complete loss for words . . . it can’t be!
“But, she was recovering?!”
Just a few days prior, her personal team of doctors; heart, lung, 24/7 on-duty nurse, ECMO technicians, and an arsenal of other specialists at the University of Chicago Medical Center were optimistic - what happened, why - how is this possible . . . So many thoughts and emotions poured through my entire being.
“She's Tough,” said the doctors. Michele beat the odds and made it through a complication in her condition that required surgery to remove a blood clot and fluid buildup on her heart.
I had just returned home from the Chicago hospital. And said to my wife Lori, “She regained consciousness, recognized me, and blew me a kiss.”
Really, my beautiful Lil' sister Michele Lucille (Ball) Smith, at 53 years young, was gone! Mercifully she is no longer suffering.
About two years ago, Michele was diagnosed with a rare form of Pulmonary Hypertension. Admittedly, we really did not know what that meant and, when we looked it up, did not comprehend the seriousness or consequences of the disease.
Michele was a devoted wife to Harold Smith and the mother of two strapping young men, Evan and Cole. Together with her friend, companion, and husband, she had raised her boys on a farm in the small rural community of Monterey, IL. To say she was an animal lover was an understatement. Her boys grew up with pets; dogs, cats, chickens, horses, ducks, hogs, cows, raccoons, you name it they took them in. Strays, homeless, and abandoned animals.
You see, my sisters' true calling was as a Veterinary Technician (Vet Tech) for the Spoon River Animal Clinic for over 20 years. She possessed the practical knowledge of a veterinarian with no formal degree or veterinary license. Admittedly, everyone in the county would tell you, “Those doctors at that Clinic, they rely on Michele’s expertise and loving care to administer whatever it takes.” That was proven to all when she was hospitalized and airlifted to the Chicago Medical Center.
“We’ve never seen anything like this,” the doctors would say.
The outpouring of love; cards, gifts, mail, packages, text messages, visitors, well-wishers, and Facebook posts. The devotion of her husband, Harold, who never left her side (he never left the hospital, never went outside) for over six weeks. And Sharon Smith, her Godly mother-in-law who was there (with unwavering faith) to support her son, practically the entire stay at the hospital. What devotion, what faith!
Michele Lucille Ball was born in Canton, IL., on December 19, 1965. An early Christmas gift for our family. Raising three young boys at that time, Patrick, Ronald, and Rodger, was an enormous challenge for my parents. But Mom wanted a girl. Turns out secretly I think Dad probably did too. She was named after my mother's best friend growing up in Lagord, France, Micheline, the spelling of her name comes from the French Michèle. Contrary to what everyone in the U.S. believed, her middle name was taken from my maternal grandmother, Lucienne Marie Fernande Bontemps, not Lucille Ball.
Of course, we were convinced that the song Michelle by The Beatles was written specifically for her in 1965. We would sing it to her, as a tiny baby, with Mom improvising the French lyrics.
As a young girl, Michele traveled to France (we all did) with our Mother to meet family and learn her French heritage. With the advent of Facebook, she would correspond regularly with our cousin, about Michele’s age, Virginie Bontemps, who had moved to Paris.
Growing up in the small Midwestern town of Cuba, IL. We had stories like this one shared on Facebook by Wanda May (Taylor) Estrada:
“The one memory that has been with me was when we went sledding down the big hill at Cuba's old baseball field. It was freezing, but we still went. After about an hour or so, Michele and I were frozen; we could hardly walk. You had to pull us all the way home on the sled. Your Mom made hot chocolate, and she always made the best too.”
As with all families, our lives went separate ways. When Michele was 11, I left home to attend college. After college, I moved to California. For years we would invite her to come to California to visit. As you can see from the photo, Michele did come to California to be one of the Maids of Honor at our wedding.
A year later, we returned home to see her marry a fun-loving, hard-working, and supportive young man (Harold). Among her many accomplishments, she would raise two fine young men and care for hundreds of animals. One of her true passions was horses; the family would attend rodeos, go on trail rides in Colorado. She became a true cowgirl. Together they built a wonderful life in that small rural community in Central Illinois.
How do I know that because I witnessed the outpouring of love and stories from family, friends, neighbors, church members, and complete strangers! Cards, gifts, mail, packages, text messages, visitors, well-wishers, and Facebook posts from all over the world.
You will never know how your life affects others.
Thank you all for your prayers and condolences. My Lil’ sister is now riding with the angels, “On pony she named Wildfire.” God's speed, Michele - you will always be loved.
Patrick Ball
October 12, 2019
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I was a few grades ahead of her in school, grew up with her and her brothers,I have known her my whole life, and she has always been a sweet, loving, person, and always a smile on her face, even when she felt bad. I am so sad to know that we will never see her again. Thinking of you all during this most difficult time. Take comfort that shes no longer suffering, and now at peace. Fly High Michele Ball Smith, and I know that God has already Blessed your soul. This Special Cowgirl will truly be missed by so many people and animals.