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Noirmoutier: An Ocean Between Us, Gone in a Moment

In this episode, Noirmoutier: An Ocean Between Us, Gone in a Moment.

Sometimes love waits half a century for its moment — and when it finally arrives, time doesn’t stand still; it disappears.

The moment I stepped off the train in Nantes, it felt like time froze. There she was — my cousin Michèle — waiting on the platform, arms waving desperately. When we finally embraced, the fifty years that had passed between us disappeared in an instant. The melody in her voice was the same, but softer than I remembered. We both shed tears of joy that only come from love long overdue.

“I’m so happy you are here,” she whispered, her voice trembling. 

Thank goodness for the translation app on my phone, because the conversation began immediately — fast, fluid, and unstoppable.

The Frenzy of Catching Up

As we drove for about an hour to the tiny town of L’Épine on the Island of Noirmoutier, the words kept tumbling out. Michèle and her husband, Alain, are the most gracious hosts — but my new challenge, I quickly realized, is keeping my phone charged because our conversation never stops!

Our first stop was a small local restaurant. Michèle and Alain knew everyone there. Within minutes, we were greeted with hugs and kisses on both cheeks — one, then the other — as if I’d always belonged. The food was extraordinary: fresh fish, local wine, and laughter that never paused between courses. By the third dish, I surrendered my fork in defeat, earning a hearty laugh from Michèle. “You’ll never survive a French Sunday lunch!” she teased. She was right.

Somewhere between laughter and tears, I realized this trip wasn’t about seeing France — it was about feeling family again. After fifty years apart, we weren’t just catching up; we were remembering who we were, and who we still are.

When night finally arrived, the island itself insisted on silence. The house fell into a pitch-dark quiet I hadn’t known since my days exploring the depths of a Tourmaline mine. Every evening, Michèle and Alain close their wooden shutters tight — a nightly ritual against the swift-moving storms that sweep across the island. The darkness feels complete, secure, and oddly comforting — like being wrapped inside the night itself. In that stillness, I could almost hear the ocean breathing.

Life by the Sea, the Sun, and the Wind

By morning, the rhythm of the island unfolds: gulls calling, breezes lifting the scent of salt through narrow lanes, the hum of bicycles on the streets.

L’Épine is a small town with just over 1,600 residents, yet it embodies the spirit of the sea. Its motto, “Mari, Sole, Vento” — meaning “By the sea, the sun, the wind” — perfectly captures its essence. The town’s history dates back to Roman times, when salt production was central to its identity. Today, it remains a peaceful place where life moves gently, like the tide, slow but steady. The area feels timeless, as if it remembers every family that has ever lived there. The sea and wind seem to echo a message: slow down, relax, and stay awhile.

And then there’s Oslo, their shaggy, soft-eyed spaniel, whom we met the next morning in the garden. Alain opened the back door of his small work truck, and Oslo was instantly there, tail wagging, ready to go. He trotted beside us as if he’d already decided I was part of the crew.

As the day stretched on — sunlight glinting off salt ponds, the air heavy with the scent of the Atlantic — I realized something profound but straightforward: I didn’t come to Noirmoutier to find family. I came to remember that family was never lost.

Every moment here — from the blur of a 200-MPH train to the hush of an island night — feels like a reminder: Love travels faster than time.

I’m Patrick Ball. Stay curious, ask questions. See you soon.

Comments

Anonymous said…
Maman était réellement heureuse de te revoir et te recevoir. Elle aimait tellement tata Mauricette ❤️ Merci d'être venu à elle car son rêve était de venir à vous (toute la famille). Je t'embrasse. Nathalie

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